I overhead a comment the other day from a woman who had decided to stay at home after having her baby to be a “fulltime mom” and that got me thinking about my own decision to return to work. Truthfully I was put off by the notion that a fulltime mom is one who does not work outside the home. Does being a working mother make me any less of a fulltime mom than one who stays home? I view motherhood as a 24/7 job regardless if you are with your child exclusively during that time. I think about, worry about, obsess over Logan all day every day.
Returning to work was the best decision for myself and my family. It was important to me to maintain my professional identity after having a baby – one I have worked several years to develop. I enjoy my job and have many career goals left to accomplish. It also affords us the opportunity to maintain our standard of living and participate in activities and hobbies we might not be able to on one salary. That’s not to say there aren’t times I wish I was home with Logan more and I miss him terribly when I am away. It is a constant balancing act to do well at home and at my job and I’ve accepted there will be times when I’m not great at doing both. I give so much credit to those mothers who do stay home with their children. The 3 months home on maternity leave were absolutely exhausting and I imagine it only gets harder. The decision to return to work or stay home is a personal one and as mothers we should stand behind and support each individual’s choice.
These habits of effective stay-at-home moms could easily be part of any mother’s routine!
I’d love to hear about your decision to either return to work or stay home and the reasons behind your choice. I’m always interested in the experiences of other mothers as I try to navigate my own path.